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Emotional Intelligence: How to deal with Emotions in everyday life

Today, I'd like to talk to you about a special topic for our development, which is emotional intelligence.

I know that the subject is nothing new, since Daniel Goleman, the forerunner of emotional intelligence, Augusto Cury, Gustavo Cerbasi, among others, have already addressed this topic.

Quantum physics and neuroscience have also contributed to a greater understanding.

However, few people put into practice this skill that allows us to identify, understand and manage our emotions and feelings.

In my research on the subject, I bring you a reflection on spiritual intelligence as a complementary pair to emotional intelligence.

They are sensitive and subtle points of view, where we can use this new information to add new attitudes and greater understanding to our lives.

But first, I'd like to define:

What is emotion?

Emotion is an immediate reaction to a stimulus, it's something that moves you and doesn't involve thought or feeling.

What is feeling?

Feeling, on the other hand, involves a high degree of cognitive component, perception and evaluation of something.

Realize that emotion is a reaction while feeling is a construction. What is Emotional Intelligence and how is it different from intellectual intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is our ability to decide our own emotions, but not to discard our feelings in the face of a given situation.

Intellectual or Rational Intelligence, on the other hand, is related to logical capacity, to solving rational questions, related to IQ (intelligence quotient).

What is Spiritual Intelligence?

It is the ability of human beings to balance their reason (IQ) and emotion (EQ) on the basis of their beliefs, values and their beliefs, values and correct actions in functional ways - and thus find their purpose in life.

What is the difference between emotion management and Emotional Intelligence?

By emotion management, we mean the ability to understand and evaluate one's own emotions in order to plan your actions.

As I said earlier, emotional intelligence is nothing more than a set of skills that allow us to identify, understand and manage our own emotions, as well as understand and respond appropriately to the emotions of others.

It is fundamental for developing healthy relationships and dealing with challenging situations in life.

The idea behind emotional intelligence is that by becoming more aware of our emotions and the emotions of others, we are able to communicate and relate more satisfactorily. When we are more aware of our emotions and how they affect our actions and thoughts, we are able to manage them more effectively and make wiser decisions.

Self-knowledge and emotional intelligence are closely related. Self-knowledge is the ability to recognize our own emotions, thoughts and behaviors, and emotional intelligence is the ability to manage these emotions effectively.

When we are more aware of our emotions and how they affect our actions and thoughts, we are able to manage them more effectively and make wiser decisions.

The concept of emotional intelligence was popularized by psychologist Daniel Goleman in his book "Emotional Intelligence: The Revolutionary Theory that Redefines What It Means to Be Intelligent" (1995).

Since then, emotional intelligence has become a valued skill in many areas, including business, education and health.

A simple question that can help you understand whether you have emotional intelligence is to think:

How do you react to an adverse situation?

Of course, we don't have 100% control of our emotions, but if you can't manage them, it could be a sign of caution.

For example, when we think of emotional intelligence in the professional field:

Example: a manager who faced with a difficulty, HE manages his own emotions being able to motivate employees and his team and thus they manage to prosper.

To identify emotions, you need to pay attention to the physical and mental signals that the body sends out, such as feelings of unease, sadness, irritation, among others.

One strategy for dealing with emotions is to recognize them, validate the feelings and dialogue with them and listen to what they have to say. They always carry messages. We all know that dealing with emotions on a daily basis can be a major challenge, especially in times of uncertainty and constant change.

However, it is possible to develop emotional intelligence skills to manage emotions in a healthy and constructive way. One of the keys to dealing with emotions is emotional self-awareness, which involves the ability to recognize and understand your own feelings. This can be achieved simply by taking the time to reflect on your emotions/feelings and thoughts.

A simple and powerful tip is to keep a diary, a little notebook to write down your thoughts, your habits...

Other important skills that help with emotional regulation include techniques such as deep breathing, physical exercise, talking to friends or family, or even seeking professional help if necessary.

Dealing with emotions on a daily basis is an ongoing process of personal development. But surely when you start to become more aware of your emotions in a healthy and constructive way, you can achieve a more balanced and satisfying life.

There are no good or bad emotions, they are just emotions, the way you deal with and manage emotions is what determines them (joy, sadness, anger, fear, surprise). An example of an emotion is joy, which can be experienced in situations such as receiving good news, spending time with friends and family, or doing something we love. On the other hand, sadness is an emotion that can be felt after a loss, separation or disappointment.

Pay attention to your emotions and learn to deal with them in a healthy way. This will help you not only in your personal life, but also in your social and professional life. So, I believe that in order to develop emotional intelligence, you can adopt a few simple practices.


1. Self-knowledge: take time to reflect on your emotions and how they affect your actions and thoughts. Identify your strong and weak emotional points and work to improve them.

2. Empathy: try to understand the feelings and perspectives of others. Listen carefully and put yourself in their shoes, trying to understand their concerns and needs.

3. Learn to deal with your emotions in a healthy and constructive way. Find ways to relax and calm down, such as meditation, physical exercise or hobbies.

4. Social skills: develop communication skills and learn to establish healthy and positive relationships with others.

In addition, it's important to remember that emotional intelligence is a skill that can be learned and improved over time, AND THIS through continuous practice and effort.

Think about it and practice it.


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