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How to develop emotional intelligence to strengthen relationships

Emotional intelligence, which allows us to understand and manage our own emotions, as well as understand the emotions of others.

This internal resource can be developed and is essential for building healthy and meaningful connections with the people we live with

Now I'm sharing with you a short story called Sadness and Fury by Argentine writer Jorge Bucay.

In an enchanted kingdom where men can never reach, or perhaps where men pass through eternally without realizing it... In a magical kingdom where non-tangible things become concrete... Once upon a time... There was a wonderful pond.

It was a pond of crystal-clear, pure water where fish of every color swam and where shades of green were permanently reflected...

Sadness and anger approached that magical, transparent pond to bathe in mutual company. The two of them took off their dresses and entered the tank naked.

Fury, who was in a hurry (as is always the case with fury), pressured by the urgency - without knowing why - quickly bathed and, even more quickly, got out of the water... But fury is blind, or at least doesn't clearly distinguish reality. So, naked and in a hurry, she put on the first dress she came across...

And it turned out that it wasn't her dress, but that of sadness... And so, dressed in sadness, fury left. Very indolent, very serene, willing as always to stay where she was, sadness finished her bath and, without haste - or, rather, without awareness of the passage of time - she lazily and slowly climbed out of the pond.

On the shore, she realized that her clothes were gone. As we all know, if there's one thing sadness doesn't like, it's being naked. So she put on the only clothes she could find by the pond: the dress of fury.

So we can see in this tale the importance of identifying and dealing with our emotions.

When you understand that emotions are just emotions and that we can manage them by realizing what they have to tell us, as in the story, Sadness can allow us to reflect on our losses and help us learn from them.

Anger, on the other hand, doesn't discriminate and takes actions that don't correspond to it without realizing it

It's important to be able to express and deal with emotions and feelings assertively in the most diverse circumstances. This avoids hasty, immediate and immature reactions that harm us and affect the people with whom we have relationships

In this way, we can find greater emotional balance and live more consciously. This is emotional intelligence, managing our emotions and empathetically understanding the emotions and feelings of others and their perspectives.

When we are empathetic, our attitudes, behaviors and actions generate well-being, as this demonstrates that we are willing to lend a listening ear in support of others.

Take some time to reflect on how you feel in different situations and identify the triggers that can set off emotional responses.

By understanding your emotions better, you'll be able to express them more clearly and carefully.

One characteristic that can help us develop intelligence is to look at yourself with an attentive eye.

Notice yourself, give yourself time to think about events instead of acting them out.

Think about what your inner self is signaling to you. What your emotions and feelings mean when something happens differently from what you thought or expected.

Instead of acting defensively or critically, look for constructive solutions.

Be open to dialogue, show empathy and seek mutual understanding.

It's a matter of choice!

We need to allow ourselves to establish meaningful healthy connections in order to improve the quality of our relationships

EXAMPLE : Faced with a situation.

Try to understand the other person and find a respectful middle ground for both of you.

STOP and think about your relationships:

It could be romantic, professional or friendly.

How do you say what you feel?

How do you communicate?

Is it respectful, careful communication?

Or is it noisy, disrespectful communication?

When you develop emotional intelligence in relationships, you express feelings and needs clearly and assertively. Try to observe!

At the same time, we try to listen attentively to what the other person has to say.

With open and respectful communication, we can resolve conflicts in a healthy way and strengthen our relationships.

When the relationship is dysfunctional, i.e. there are constant conflicts, there is no compatibility, there is no respect.

We know that it's normal to have opposing opinions and even minor friction, but these are resolved with respect when the relationship is functional.

In dysfunctional relationships, offenses, tensions and even fights become routine.

To identify some of these examples, it is essential to talk clearly and objectively in order to use emotional intelligence in the most diverse areas of relationships (professional, family, love, friendships).

Of course, people must be committed.

Every change involves responsibility and commitment.

Everyone knows what is best for them.

It's also important to learn how to deal with stress and emotions. We all face challenging situations and intense emotions, but it's how we deal with them that makes the difference.

To keep calm and mentally well during difficult times, you can use a few minutes of your day that can make a difference.

For example:

Every week I do a moment of prayer for the peace of the world, it's very quick, lasting 2 minutes. I try to get in touch with my inner peace and share it with the outside world.

Some people think that meditation requires many hours, but it doesn't.

For example:

MEDITATION Do a meditation of up to 5 minutes:

Enter your silence, quieten your mind, order your thoughts.

Use your breathing as a resource for change.

This internal movement can help control stress and negative emotions, allowing us to maintain calm and mental clarity.


During a walk, our body automatically releases a greater amount of endorphins, the hormone responsible for feelings of joy and relaxation.


On my Instagram @nucleoreginanohra, there are lots of lives and visualizations that can contribute to your personal development.

Often, a relationship ends not because one person is wrong and the other is right, but because it's not enough to recognize and understand how one's own emotions affect other people.

Emotional intelligence is needed to manage and resolve conflicts, problems and differences.

Because by getting to know each other better, we can identify harmful behavior patterns and WORK to change them, CHOOSING healthier relationships, BUILDING relationships based on understanding, respect and empathy.

My loves, to strengthen a relationship, it's important to have dialog as the basis of communication;

Avoiding creating expectations, knowing how to give in and adapt when necessary, showing interest in and admiration for the other person, knowing your own way of communicating and that of your partner, friend, boss, you name it. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships here

Do you respect your partner's space? Your partner's?

Do you respect boundaries in relationships? Whether it's with friends, family or professionals.

Take some time to reflect on this and let's talk.


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